We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ frequently at the moment of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, as well as the individuals to whom we say it.
Many of us are unique people with our own unique needs and desires; and many of us are united within our quest for the same thing – to feel Happy New Year 2020 Images. Many of us are striving with this state of ‘happiness’; and yet lots of people are looking within the wrong place for it – and settling for a temporary mood-enhancer by means of alcohol, drugs, a brand new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are packed with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – the majority of which is just plain sound judgment! Nobody else is the expert for you! Only you know – or want to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is an additional person’s burden.
If you now take into consideration what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to getting a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right through to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as is also seen in general society.
Happiness for you depends upon your personal degree of personal and spiritual awareness, and your capability to create happiness being a state of mind that you simply can come back to at will – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is not enough to easily ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself as being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What many of us don’t realise is the fact that we have two mind-sets about everything in our life, and those two minds can be at odds with the other person. This conflict can include the levels of happiness we have been ‘allowed’ to experience.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; but if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t feel that we deserve it, or that people would reap the benefits of it – this just isn’t going to come our way. Our outer lives are only ever a reflection in our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies tend not to access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the contrary. This is known as ‘Emotional Contagion’ – and it is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves give out that subsequently affects those around us.
We have now neurons in our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion that we are witnessing away from us. For instance whenever we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we are instinctively designed to feel something similar. This connection goes past mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of similar things having happened to us previously. Our company is significantly affected by being around Merry Christmas Images, whose emotions then we ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by a ‘happy mask’ that someone may wear; that will be a false-self they present to the world being an make an effort to hide their real feelings and requires. This may well have already been set up in childhood if it was encouraged and expected they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for the family’s sake; and also to stuff down their real feelings like anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which was real, but ‘unacceptable’ from the family/care-giver.
Lots of people are so accustomed to wearing a mask they cannot imagine an existence without this, or how to get it off! Their eyes will usually give the game away as to their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if another person is sensitive enough to observe these ‘slips’.
All of us have a ‘base-line’ degree of happiness at any stage in our lives – which can be formed from our past experiences and the meaning we gave in their mind; and naturally the effects these have experienced upon our sub-conscious mind as well as the ‘program’ our company is running.
This base-line represents only 40% in the full quantity of happiness we are capable of experiencing at the present time. Another 10% can range from external ‘lucky’ events including the lottery win; or a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and we soon come back to our base level once again.
The good news though would be that the remaining 40% of happiness accessible to you – comes from YOU! This is scientifically validated and forms a central part of Positive Psychology.
You can find 12 means of facilitating more happiness by the own actions and thoughts, and also by the releasing your very own blockages. Some of these ways include finding out how to establish a more optimistic and focused approach to life; to keep up your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness into your life. These sound simple however are profound and life-changing. Enhancing your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell within your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and thus your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to your calmness from the mind… observing what exactly is, and never forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; rather than worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To view the Happy New Year 2020 Wishes in every single tiny moment rather than only focusing in front of the present time; or dwelling within the unchangeable past. The only real time you really have is this moment and the next breath. Take full advantage of these whilst you still need them.